the secret of liking someone

It is true that everyone has a secret of liking someone, but is this secret something that should be shared?


A number of people would agree but then there are a little group of people that think not. Sharing the secret of liking someone should be kept behind closed doors mainly to protect yourself from being hurt. everyone dreads the feeling of being rejected, which is the reason why we keep our little secret deep down inside.

but what about those people who believe the secret of liking someone should be advertised for all the world to see. why is it important to share the secret of liking someone?

apparently if you never share you will never know the answer. so if you really want to know if someone has the same feelings for you, it is wise to show your bold colours.

this leads me to the question

"what is worse? knowing or not knowing?"

according to my friend Kris, "all knowledge gained is good knowledge, regardless of what it is. we learn from every little thing we experience and to deny ourselves this information is to deny ourselves progession".

in the concept of liking someone i suppose you could say it is good to know if they like you so you don't waste all your time and energy on this one person.

what we experience is the journey of finding out if someone likes us, the information we gain is the answer to the question "do they like me?

by denying ourselves progression basically means we deny ourselves the ability to move on and get over a certain individual. the reason? we haven't allowed ourselves to discover the answers to all our questions.

so where do we find the answers to all our questions?

apparently the answer comes from within ourselves. only finding more about yourself can tell you the answer. the answer comes from the confidence within yourself. the confidence to ask a certain individual "hey do you like me?", is all you need to find the answers you are searching for.

is confidence all you need? maybe not. maybe it is also your past experiences, good or bad that help you seek those answers. they either make you or stop you from asking. you just have to remember you are looking at your future- forget your past for the better.

hurt is nothing to be afraid of, it doesn't stop the world from turning. all it does is redefine us and make us stronger.

so when it comes to the question, "is it better to know or not to know?"

the answer is quite clear. it is better to know. hurt is nothing to be afraid of. step outside and seek the answers to your questions. so if your question is,"do they like me?" do yourself a favour and ask. there is nothing to lose.

everyone has a secret of liking someone. don't be afraid to let it shine. we are not in high school anymore. it is all part of life's journey.

miss beckz

(a big thank you to Kris for his input!!)

xxoo

A question for you all

"what is worse? knowing or not knowing?"

"is it better to know or not know?"

Top Gear Rocks Okay- p.s richard hammond is HOT

Last nights Top Gear episode was the best yet! i cant believe they wrote Man Love Rules Ok on Hammond's Dodge car.

I'm surprised no one was hurt.

It is the best show ever. It even beats Top Model on Monday nights!

And the best part of the show- apart from the hottest cars in the world,

RICHARD HAMMOND IS HOT

I want to get myself some of that hot stuff. I want to get myself my own Richard Hammond.

Man if i saw him walking down the street i would be like "Wass- up?"- in the same way Turk does to Carla in an episode of Scrubs.

He isn't hot as in like Johnny Depp, but there is something about him. Maybe its the hot cars he drives........hm!

Love Miss Beckz (who is in love with Richard Hammond!)

xxxoo

where to sit in a taxi!

today at work we had a conversation about our taxi adventures and taxi drivers in general.

a few good points came up in conversation.

apparently the best place to sit in a taxi is in the back sit diagonal to the driver.

apparently a woman sitting in the front seat of a taxi means she is willing to pay the taxi driver by giving him something in return- and i don't mean money!

a good idea is to sms the taxi drivers ID number to a friend or parent just in case anything happens. it is also smart (if you can get away with it) to take a photo of the taxi drivers ID card with your mobile phone.

i would like to also point out that i have nothing against taxi drivers. i mean they are the ones that drive me home when i am so intoxicated that i can't walk.

god bless taxi drivers! ha. ha.

miss beckz

xxoo

"Steal from best and make it it your own, only better"

* I am wearing shoes from Target, shorts from Just Jeans and t shirt from Valley Girl

Miss Beckz

xxoo

p.s blogs coming soon- been a bit busy

Funny Quote

This has to been the funniest quote i have heard in a long time. kind regards to my best friend.

" the idea of sex disgusts me!"

i was going to write about the whole concept of it but didnt find the need too. i think the quote pretty much speaks for itself.

enjoy

miss beckz

what defines the 'perfect' relationship?

Last night i could not sleep. Part of it was because of the hot night, the other part of it was due to the fact my mind was racing like a sports car. i was thinking of numerous things and lucky i had my little note pad next to me just in case i missed something important. among the numerous things i was thinking about there was one interesting topic floating in my head.

"what defines the perfect relationship?"

The first thing that comes to my head is your common interests and passion. Could it be simple to say,

" i like red, he likes red. we are perfect therefore we have the perfect relationship!".

so is it that easy to define?

i think not.

there has to be more elements to the equation and a lot more ingrediants included in the mixture.

so what other factors are included in a 'perfect' relationship?

does your ability to have a well crafted conversation anything to do with it?

the fact that you can talk hours on end and still manage to suppress the dreaded 'awkward silence'?

so is dodging the 'awkward silence' the key to a perfect relationship? is it the fact you can still have things to say even without speaking any words?

or is it when you can finish each others sentences and laugh about it?

when i mean conversation in this blog i don't mean only using 'words'. what about those perfect moments where no

words are needed to express how you feel and what you are thinking?

is the beautiful sound of silence the golden element to the 'perfect' relationship?

maybe conversation with or without spoken words is the key to the 'perfect' relationship.

when you finally take the giant leap and begin a long term relationship does the journey to the 'perfect' relationship begin or end with the acceptance of each others flaws?

his table manners are horrible.

she can't stop talking about shoes.

he farts in her company.

she has the funniest hyena laugh.

he has a hairy back.

her appearance is sharp.

is it when you finally accept that all of these flaws exist that you realise you have a 'perfect' relationship on your hands?

it is hard to say.

i suppose it does make the relationship a little bit cleaner but is it all you need?

when it comes to having a relationship with a certain individual is it what you feel inside that really defines the 'perfect' relationship?

does it all depend on how you feel when you are with them?

is it the sense of security?

the comfort of someone holding you at night and telling you everything will be alright?

or is it the feeling of being 100% comfortable with them to the point where you can do anything with them (maybe even let out a bit of a fart hehe).

is it this tiny feeling inside, the feeling of butterflies in our tummy that determines the perfection of our relationship with the one we love?

i suppose it is up to the eye of the beholder to agree with that.

as i come to an end i have noticed that i have overused the term 'perfect'. this now leads me to end this blog with a quote from my friend Kris.

"You don't love them because they are perfect, you love them because they are not"

maybe there is no such a thing as the 'perfect' relationship. maybe it is the flaws that truly make an imperfect relationship all the more perfect.

i would love to hear your comments

love miss beckz

xxoo

how do you know if a guy likes you?

How do you know if a guy likes you?

You know what would make a girl’s life so much simpler? If we knew if a guy likes us. The question, “how do we know if a guy likes us?” is a question on many girls’ lips and a short, quick answer is something we all need. Why can’t there be a checklist that we can carry around with us to help pick out the hints and clues guys give to us to show that they are interested. Wouldn’t life be a whole lot simpler?

I did a bit of research in this area by asking a number of guys what they do to show a girl that they are interested in them. This is what I came up with:

• if he pays a lot of attention to you

• a smile

• he can’t take his eyes off you

• spends time with you and enjoys it

• flirts

• messages you a lot

• acts like a dick head

• hits you in a play fight kind of way

• acts in a childish manner when physically attracted to you

So could you say that this checklist IS the ultimate checklist for the female population?

My friend Picko seems to completely disagree with me. He told me that everyone is slightly different and that people don’t use that cleverly devised checklist. He also told me that we always seem not to notice when someone is interested in us, when it is directed at us.

Then you could say that there is nothing obvious out there to know if a guy likes you, only until he actually says to you "hey I like you!”

But if there are no words such as, “hey I like you” to express how they feel, how do they then do it?

Apparently it is a little thing called “actions”. It is the actions guy express to show they are interested in a girl. They hang around them, they are there for them, they generally do things that they would do if you were going out.

It seems I am wrong about the whole concept that guys generally come out straight away with the whole "hey I like you".

Further into my research I discovered that the single reason why most guys don’t come out with the line “hey I like you” is because they are SHY and because they don’t want to make things awkward between the two individuals.

Which got me asking,” if a guy doesn’t come out with the ‘hey I like you’ line is it then a confidence thing or are guys generally shy? Do guys generally like you or are they thinking with the thing downstairs?” The questions kept rolling out and the answers quickly followed. Picko told me that it is not a confidence thing and some guys don’t think with below the belt. It all comes down to the guy being shy.

So in conclusion if you are waiting for that special guy to ask you out, it may not be because he isn’t interested it may be because he is generally shy.

Picko (my great guy friend whom I have numerous deep and meaningful conversations with) told me everyone prefers to know what the person is going to say before you ask.

Which comes to my ending thought from the mouth of Mr. Picko, “It is better to know because all knowledge gained is good knowledge, regardless of what it is”.

So if you like a certain guy and want to go out with him don’t hesitate to speak up about your feelings, because apparently in the world of men it is best to know how a girl feels.

Miss Beckz

xxoo

Hey Hey

I had my canceled cocktail party last week. It was Kaz, Picko & myself watching t.v and laughing our heads off. Missy (my new puppy) also had fun with all the attention.

Dinner was a successful although it was cold (because Picko rocked up late). I cooked the dinner myself while Kaz put on her make up for the night ahead.

Within 10 minutes of us being in our cocktail dresses we changed into our p.js as it was so much more comfortable. Overall the night was a success. Too bad the night was canceled due to lack of interest. But it was nice to hang out with my best friends.

Anyways the reason why i wrote this random blog was to test out the photo in the blog.

Enjoy

Love M!ss Beckz

xxoo

its been a while

hey everyone

geez its been a while since i have written anything. i have blog ideas on my computer but havent had the chance to sit down and write. my mind has been a bit busy at the moment since Missy has been sick.

my cousin has always been staying over so i couldnt watch Sex and the City- i tried but had to fast forward majority of the scenes. so i havent had any inspiration for blogs.

i have had numerous deep and meaningfuls with certain people, mainly Kris. lol. but i am missing that inspiration i need to write a bloody good blog.

so at the moment i am outside with Missy catching up on emails and reading blogs. my laptop battery is going to die so i really need to vacate inside. when i am inside i will start my research on Palm Reading and start reading a book on relationships and the broken heart. hopefully it will be an interesting read.

how sad is the news of heath ledger? they had a tribute song on Nova today- the song "these days" by powerfinger...and i found myself crying. it is so sad. it just brought back memories of when my grandfathers died. so sad. RIP.

anyways that is enough from me....my laptop is dying so i got to end this blog.

love you all

missbeckz

how to completely get over someone

Hey everyone

As you are doing whatever you are doing at the moment I am lying on the grass outside in the lovely sun writing this new blog. Its funny I already have written one this morning but I figured I wont have time to log on the net in the next few days so I thought I should give you a double whammy.

Today’s blog is all about getting over someone you love when they don’t feel the same way. What inspired me to write this blog is my New Year resolution I added last night; to get over the guy I have liked for the past 2 years. I research the net last night to get some ideas to help me achieve this resolution but came up with some of my own. So the process of getting over this so called guy began last night. As I write this blog it is helping me to work it through so bare with me.

Last night I decided to start the process by getting rid of him subconsciously. I wrote down his name on a piece of paper and cut it up into small pieces, finishing by throwing the scrap pieces in the bin. I hope this works. Well I think it has because the only time I am thinking of him is through writing this, instead of waking up to the thought of him.

Below I have written other ways of getting over someone. The most important thing to remember is that they don’t deserve someone like you.

• Save your love for someone who will love you in the same way

• You deserve better

• Feel good about yourself

• Tell yourself that “he is just not that into you”

• Getting over him or her will open many other doors meaning you might find the perfect partner

• If you believe in destiny then it might happen in the future. In the mean time don’t absorb yourself in the idea of you two being together

• Deal with it (hate to be harsh even to myself)

• Try not to be in contact with him

• Write how you feel down on a piece of paper instead of telling them- it will only cause much more pain

• Stay busy

• Spend your time with yourself (keeping busy of course) or your loving friends

• Write their name down on a piece of paper and have a BONFIRE! (great idea Lorraine and Nat!)

That’s about it. There are more ideas floating around in my head but I think it depends on the person and what the best way is to get over the certain person.

Find something that you enjoy and stay in that world as much as possible to get your mind off the situation. Love yourself more than you love them. You deserve better, much better! Just remember when this door closes another will open. Imagine the other opportunities and adventures the other door will give you. Maybe someone who is 100 times better than what you spent your time chasing.

Good Luck

M!ss Beckz

Xxoo

soul mates- is there such a thing ?

SOUL MATES


A question came over my mind this morning when i was falling in and out of consciousness. is there such thing as soul mates? Is there only one person in the entire world and universe that is perfect for you, so perfect that you belong together. all you have to do is look for them? but of course it is not always that easy. we search for this soul mate but we get endlessly disappointed. even though we are so disappointed we still continue looking. isnt that so insane? we are wasting our time with numerous guys hoping that they are our soul mate. it would be so much easier if a guy walked into our lives with a big sign on his head saying, "I AM YOUR SOUL MATE". wouldnt life be a whole lot simpler? unfortunately life doesnt work that way.

but before we all start freaking out in the streets of the city frantically searching for our soul mate, the question still remains, is there such thing as soul mates? i would seem to think so. but then again i am a fan of the old fashion love. i do believe that some where out there there is a man or woman whom you are destined to be with, someone who brings out the best in you and whom you love.

i spoke to one of my good guy friends today and he told me that he believes in the concept of soul mates, however he doesn't believe that there is just one person. he told me that if one person doesn't end up with their soul mate it starts a chain reaction where numerous people dont find their soul mates, all because of one persons mistake in the search of their soul mate. he also told me that your soul mate is the person you love. he said most people see a soul mate as one person out of everyone on the planet, whereas he sees it as the person you love.

which made me think. who ever you love is your soul mate. you could love ten people in your life and each person was your soul mate at that certain stage in your life. but how can that be possible?

in another conversation i was chatting to my friend from work. i brought up the topic of soul mates and he told me that he reckons there are many people around the world that will be compatible for marriage. he also mentioned that he doesnt think that there is just ONE person in the world just right for ONE person. he told me that how can there just be one person in the entire world, how are you gonna find them.

which got me thinking. what happens if your soul mate is in Africa and you have never been or even thought of going there. how do you then meet? can we possibly have a soul mate in each country or city?

i realised my research had only consisted of males which is kind of a biased opinion, so i decided to ask a female for a touch of a girl's perspective.

she told me that there is more than one person that can make you happy, however you only get one soul mate.

can this be true? can my theory of:

men= more than one soul mate; and

woman= only one soul mate

be completely true?


as i was reading what she was typing on msn i still had a question in my mind. is your soul mate the one you love? Could your soul mate be your best friend or does it have to be the person whom you are having a relationship with? she must have been reading my mind because she continued on by explaining that you have one soul but it doesnt necessarily have to be your husband, it can be a best friend or family member.

could my soul mate be my one and only best friend? i mean we do have a connection, finish each others sentences and i suppose you could say i do love her, but is that all you need to qualify as a soul mate?

is there some sort of checklist you have to go by to become a soul mate? or is it a feeling in your heart? or is it only based on your relationships with the opposite sex and the feeling of love.

as i drew closer to a conclusion in my mind i thought about the fact that it is so amazing how the guys say there is more than one but the girls say there is only one. it is fascinating the difference in how we think and feel.

after much thinking i have come to a conclusion.

no matter what i still believe in soul mates just as i believe in the concept of fate. there is only one person out there for each of us, it is just a matter of finding them and falling in love with them.

and if you dont believe in my concluding comment, please just have a bit of hope for the benefit of yourself and everyone else.

M!ss Beckz xxoo

that special thing

That Special Thing

Hey all,

Yesterday i was having a conversation with a good friend of mine about the concept of the "special thing" which is something a certain person does that makes you melt (or want to get them into bed- whatever floats your boat!).


this "Special Thing" is something a person says or does that makes you stop in your tracks and begin to realise that this person is something special. or it could be something a person says or does that makes you want to pick them up and throw them into bed. which ever way you want to look at it. im going for the "something special" concept. this special thing could be anything from a smile to a touch. it is just something little about the person that triggers your attraction towards them.


my friend told me in our conversation the one thing a girl has to do for him to want to get her into bed is for her to speak in French! he also told me his ex girlfriend had this little smirk she did that made him melt (or throw her into bed). so he got me thinking. what special thing does a guy have to do to make me melt like butter? i thought really hard and couldnt think of anything. there is nothing that a guy does or says to make me wanna throw them into bed or fall in love with them
(mainly fall in love with them!).

i really tried to think of something. all i came up with was a guy in leather pants, wearing a bandena and playing a hot guitar (very much like Axel Rose of Guns n Roses back in the 80s *grools*)! but even that wouldnt work. i would be too busy appreciating the music to even notice!



but before i find this certain special thing that is suppose to make me melt, what exactly is this special thing? how can a little thing a guy does make us fall to the ground? ok so when justin timberlake does his little dance in the song summer love i am suppose to melt? oh course i do bc it is justin timberlake. but if a guy were to dance the way he does in a night club all i would think is "oh god what a show off!". so i am guessing dancing like justin timberlake isnt that special thing to me.


after much thinking of the concept i suddenly realised i may have found it. i think i like it when a guy acts mature. his attitude, his actions, his spoken words. his mannerisams and the way he handles himself. i truly think that is what makes me realise "hey you're not that bad. i can see myself with you". i also think it is the professionalism, espescially when a man is in a suit. the whole business aspect. but the main concept is when a guy acts mature. i really admire that and fall for that. the independance.

after endless thinking i think i have found it. but then as my friend said, you dont find it, it finds you. it is all about finally realizing what makes you melt and it is all about time too.

so what is your special thing? is the way they touch your shoulder, the way they smile or even how they handle themselves? everyone has a different "special thing" but as i said before you have to wait until time tells you what it is. you cant go assuming a certain action is what makes your knees shake.

i am still searching for my special thing that makes me fall in love with a guy or makes me even a little bit interested. and it is not what you want to tick off on your checklist. for example i would melt for a guy who is half italian and aussie; drives (and loves) Fords; barracks for Essendon and admires the Beatles. because that is bascially my checklist when it comes to guys. this special thing is something a person does, says or how they are and act. it is all about who they are as a person not the other attachments that come with them for example their preferred AFL football team. because remember you are in love with the person and who they are, not who they barrack for in AFL.

as i end this confusing but interesting blog/ bulletin i come to the conclusion that maturity and independence is something that makes me drop to the ground when it comes to guys as well as the leather pants and hot electric guitar!

love miss beckz

xxoo

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hes just not that into you

hes just not that into you

today as i was shopping for shoes and denim shorts i walked into a bookstore to browse amongst the wide selection of novels. i came across a book that became popular a few years back and was on the Oprah show. it was the book by one of the producers of Sex and the City called "He's just not that into you". Oprah said that this book should definitly be on every woman's beside table. i became very interested in this book as it could be a window into the workings of the male mind. but as i was quickly reading through each chapter i thought to myself, "all of this is so obvious!". i wasn't going to spend 20 bucks on a book which is based on pure common knowledge (but i am going to borrow it from the library though haha).

the book basically explains that whatever a guy does to you in a negative way bascially means he is just not that into you. which is so obvious.

he doesnt call you- hes just not that into you

he doesnt ask you out on a date- hes just not that into you

he doesnt have sex with you- hes just not that into you

he ignores you- oh bloody hell HES JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU!!

simply if a guy likes you he would have already asked you out by now! guys are not shy and when they like something they will do everything in the world to get their hands on it. girls on the other hand take more of an emotional side to things. they hesistate the intital asking out mainly because it is seen to be the man's job, but also because their mind goes through the mind numbing stage of analysing the situation. they ask themselves "is he the one for me!?".

so if you are sitting there waiting for this guy to ask you out- give up!

if he was interested he would have asked you out already. ive given up completely on numerous guys at this present moment. i dont have time to sit around and wait anymore. the world is moving too fast for us to be sitting on our arses waiting for Prince Charming.

so every negative thing a guy does or says to you bascially means he aint interested in ya.

it is as simple as that.

further into the book it goes into all the postive stuff of- its great being single, you deserve better blah blah blah!(geez i am a bit negative today!)

but the book forgets about one thing- sometimes it is just as hard to accept the fact that hes just not that into you. you try and try but nothing happens and you can't move on.

i suppose you just have to learn to let go a little.

but to be able to move on we have to accept the fact that he's just not that in you and enjoy what we have with them- or if you want, forget about his sorry arse!

there is someone out there that IS interested in you. it is just a matter of slowly removing all the pricks out there that arent interested in us to be able to see the light at the end of the tunnel.


missbeckz

do random hook ups lead to the perfect relationship?

Can a hook up lead to the perfect relationship you were looking for?


This question came to my mind after watching numerous episodes of the tv show "sex and the city" (this show is really making me think a lot about relationships!). each of these women go out to pubs and clubs, come home and hook up with a certain random and expect a relationship out of it (or not). which got me thinking. could a completely random hook up with a friend or a stranger lead to the perfect relationship us women have been looking for? i mean Carrie in Sex and the City is still going through her ups and downs with Mr. Big and so are the other women. i always thought the perfect relationship came from the perfect first greeting where you respect each others boundaires, where you only talk to them, where you are completely sober and do not mention anything about your ex boyfriend! i am still living in the dinosaur ages? i am still living in a time where Audrey Hepburn is the most desired woman because of her class?



it seems to me that in this day and age the most popular way of meeting a partner is through the ritual of getting completely wasted on a saturday night and hooking up with who ever tickles your fancy. in the morning you are just praying to the man above that this random hook up ends up like a fairy tale ending- happily ever after. but i can assure you that 97% or more of the time these random hook up never end up happily ever after!

you might be living through the honeymoon stage of a month or so but are these random hook ups long term material? i think not. they dont work because the intial attraction in a hook up is physical, nothing else. you might be too drunk to even take notice of what the poor guy is saying. all you are thinking out is the night ahead- just the two of you. i think well i believe that for a long term relationship to work there has to be more than just a physical attraction, not the feeling of regret the next day when you pick up your finest underwear off the floor of his one bedroom apartment.

so if you really want a long term relationship or even a descent relationship with a certain person stop yourself from landing in the drunken hook up square. stop and listen to what the man is saying and picture yourself being with him in the future, not just a so called one night stand if it happens. hook ups dont lead to relationships. if you believe or know that i am wrong, please dont hesitate to leave a comment. i am open to all opinions.

i just think that there is more ingrediants in the recipe for a successful and long term relationship, not just the physcial attraction which is why i dont believe random hooks ever work.

miss beckz xxoo

the response from my blog- cant make a guy like you

Hey all

i am amazed at the response i received from my previous blog- you can never make a guy like you. i never get responses to my blogs so i was quite happy when i had 3 or so guys tell me i was wrong- within the first 5 mins of posting the blog. their opinions were very different from each other and each had a different view.

one guy (my new guy best friend! lol) told me that you can always change the impression of a guy because they never really know everything about the girl straight up. he told me there are certain things that will make the guy say to himself "hey she really is something special". this thing could be anything like the way she handles a situation, what view she has on a topic or anything like that. this of course is a very interesting concept. i suppose you can say it is the little things that count. the little things she says or does that really make the guy realise she is something.

another opinion came from a guy who is study psychology at a local university. he told me that relationships work on a social pyramid and that we date or socialize with people only in our social level. our social level is expressed as part of our inner vibe. he basically told me that the three second impression thing is irrelevant because we stick to our own level. he also told me the 3 second impression is exactly the same as a first impression which you can always change.

the last opinion (and probably the best) was from a guy from my old high school. it mostly spoke about male hunting and what to do which is always a help (thanks!). he told me that attraction is based on more than just the 3 second rule. he told me to:

1) intrigue the man- make yourself interesting
2) males fall in love with stories
3) create a personality that makes you stand out in the crowd (love this one!)
4) push and pull strategy- play fun but sometimes be cold (this is an interesting one! hm!)

he also told me (compliments to you!) that attraction is based on someone thinking a lot about someone. you need to create positive thoughts in their head which will finally have him attracted to you, your stories, your attitude, your fun and your unique personality.

itsnt that brilliant. he also told me to read the book "The Game" by Neil Strauss. so i must borrow that book from the library!

very interesting comments by all the guys. it is funny how only men replied to my blog. hehe. the diverse range of comments everything from the change of impression, to a social pyramid (trust a psych student to mention that hehe) and finally to ways of attracting him.

Very Interesting....

Love M!Ss Beckz

xxoo

the 3 second impression

Hey all

At the moment i am lying in my bed typing away. i just came home from a movie/ poker night at a friend's house, and as i snuck through the front door a whirl wind of thoughts raced in my head. it is 1 am in the morning and it is normally at this time when things start popping in my head but nothing has triggered it. So tonight i walked into my bedroom and saw my Cosmo magazine lying on the floor of my extremely messing bedroom. i then had such a sad but so true thought. no matter how hard you try you can never (and i emphasize never) make a guy like you or even fall in love with you. it is not possible and it is all because of one thing. the 3 second impression. this concept of what i like to call the 3 second impression is based on the fact that when a man meets a women it takes him 3 seconds to look her up and down and to decide if she is the type he is looking for. i am dead serious! and when this man makes his decision you can not change it. he will stick by his decision no matter how much concealer you pack on to cover your imperfect skin!

this man might have a list of traits he desires and each woman he meets he subconsciouly ticks the boxes in his invisble check list. if she succeeds the test he begins to woo her into his arms. if another woman comes along and doesnt quite match his qualifications, yeah sure he might still consider being friends with her but he is just not that interested in her in a relationship way. this leads to the other woman being confined to the friends zone! and trust me it is a nightmare trying to get out of it! no matter how hard this other woman tries at getting a spot in this guys life, she will not beable to change his "3 second impression".

This "3 second impression" concept is what brings us women down. we waste our time and energy on trying to impress this man, ignoring the fact that he has already made his 3 second impression on you, didnt like what he saw and is still interested in the chick 4 office spaces away from you. it is hard to shake off the fact that he might never be interested in you which makes us try even more, because just the thought of us being with this man is what drives us to get what we want and need.in the race to achieve this man's affection we are risking our friendship with not only himself but our friends or anyone else involved. however this risk of losing everything over this guy doesnt stop us! why is that? not even Freud can come up with a solution for that question.

but i seriously think it is the race to the finishing line that keeps us motivated and willing to give up everything just for one night or even a lifetime with this man. this motivation and willingness is something we feel that can not and will not make us realise that we can never make him like or even love us. it has already been decided 3 seconds after the first initial hello. it is amazing how women and men are so different. us women see every man as potential and as Carrie says in Sex in the City "we just try them on", however men see what they want the moment eyes are locked and the 3 second impression begins and quickly ends. there is no hope in the world for a woman to try and change that impression. it is rock solid, completely permanent and set just like concrete. but then as i end this blog/ bulletin i must say that i admire the women who were able to overlook the concept of the 3 second impression and work hard to achieve the love of a great man despite his first impression of her. a women who is able to change a mans perception of her and make him fall in love with her. i wish i was that woman or girl!

with love

M!ss Beckz
xxoo